Hold That Thought
3 useful things every Thursday to help thinkers of all kinds gain clarity, get unstuck, and make great progress on what matters most.
Real feedback
Hold That Thought… Negative Feedback by Nazan Akpolat from Getty Images. This week I've been thinking about feelings, feedback, and expectations. Here are three things on that theme to turn mental energy into meaningful action: Feelings aren’t fires to be put out, but feedback to be factored in A question to ask yourself for setting realistic expectations The harsh truth about what feedback is and what it isn't This week's underthinking link tests how well you can cut bread Extra thoughts…...
Stepping in it
Hold That Thought… A whole lotta gum. Photo by Gratisography from Pexels. Wondering why you're getting this email? You probably signed up to Hold That Thought from my website, an article you read on Medium, or on LinkedIn. Regardless how you got here, if you're an overthinker (like me), this is the place! I post 3 things every Thursday to help you turn overthinking energy into meaningful action. I also publish the Leaving UX newsletter with Meltem Naz Kaso, and Lens Not Label with Nathan...
Show Your Thinking
Hold That Thought… Thinking Partners. Frog photo by Mark Bridger. This week I've been thinking about thinking. Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking (and meaningful action): The antidote to scarcity thinking, especially if you make any kind of art. By artist and coach Christine Garvey “When you make your thinking visible — through writing, projects, conversations, or experiments — you create a totally different kind of signal.” — a valuable reminder by...
Easy as eating 🎂 cake
Hold That Thought… Photo by Jo Raphael from Getty Images. This week I've been thinking about how to make things easier and less tedious. Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: If you're like me and often find yourself overthinking what to put in a greeting card, you'll appreciate Auzin Ahmadi's advice in Soft Hobbies: How to write the best one you've ever written If you're similarly stumped by a recommendation request, Ryan Delon at LinkedIn has you...
Spiffy chicken
Hold That Thought… Which chicken is more spiffy? This week I've not rallied around a particular theme*, but I have found three things united by their usefulness in turning overthinking into expert thinking: A list of things that are not doing the thing by Strangest Loop “The persistent are like boats whose engines can't be throttled back. The obstinate are like boats whose rudders can't be turned.” — Paul Graham on The Right Kind of Stubborn The most useful business (and life) coaching advice...
Tilting at time-wasters (and other monsters)
Hold That Thought… Iron Man tilting at windmills. Photo by me taken at Crosby Beach, Liverpool UK. This week I've been thinking about time-wasters and other imaginary monsters. Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: If your personal rogues gallery consists of energy vampires and other tedious adversaries, remember this: nobody can waste your time If you don't respect your own time, nobody else will And one for the real adversaries: a plan for political,...
The antidote to nonsense
Hold That Thought… Bucket photo by emregologlu on Getty Images Pro. This week I've been thinking about keeping it simple. Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: Most psychometric tests are absolute nonsense. So, you're a Blue? An INTP? A Challenger? I say, so what. “No, right now and indeed for all time–the hardest thing in the world is to not be infected by what’s happening around you. To not lose your mind…or your decency…or your sense of what...
Serious, Sincere, or Silly?
Hold That Thought… Quote from Succession, Season 4, Episode 2. Image source: Screenrant.com; modified in Canva Pro. This week I've been thinking about unserious people (and how not to be one). Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: “I used to think of seriousness as something to aspire to, a nice-to-have once you figure everything else out. Something you save up for, like a house. ‘Oh, I’d love to be serious, but in this economy?’” — The three lies that...
Five f-words
Hold That Thought… Fight, Flight, Freeze…and Fawn and Flop. What's that all about? This week I've been thinking about navigating change effectively. Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: FFFFF!!!! We can't always control our responses, but understanding them (and why they happen) is the key to dealing more effectively when things change or stress us out. When there's unwanted change happening, I try to remember this advice from Brené Brown's book The...
One more rep
Hold That Thought… This morning's mental workout was extra tough. This week I've been thinking hard about helping people change careers (and what that means for my own: more speaking in front of others). Here are three things on that theme to turn overthinking into expert thinking: Another fantastic post by David Spinks on navigating career lostness What if clear thinking is overrated? Here's Paras Chopra on how to be a messy thinker “We're taking all our wonky pots of nerves spinning there...
3 useful things every Thursday to help thinkers of all kinds gain clarity, get unstuck, and make great progress on what matters most.