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Right on time

Published 5 months ago • 2 min read

Every Thursday I share three useful things to help you turn overthinking into expert thinking. I usually include one fresh article from me, but this week I've been dealing with a gum infection while I wait for wisdom tooth surgery. Also, I've been wintering.

Here are this week’s 100% curated picks…

1.

“Even wanting is its own form of discomfort, which means that what looks like a lack of motivation is often simply someone escaping discomfort in an unhealthy or unproductive way.”

Author Nir Eyal on why motivation is not what you think

2.

“As soon as we tell ourselves we should be doing something, we turn off the part of our brains that can help us actually do it.”

How “should” makes us stupid, and how to get smart again (paywall-free Medium link). By Jane Elliott, PhD.

3.

You may think yourself lazy, or flawed. Yet your body is made of almost exactly the same elements as the stars. Your bone composition matches the coral in the seas and you, my friend, are ruled by the moon and the sun. Whether you like it or not. So no, you are not lazy, Nature is simply pulling you to slow, like the life, the floral and fauna around you. It is not your moment to rise. It is winter, you are wintering. And you are right on time.

A poem by Donna Ashworth

Hat tip to Coach & Consultant Claire Buckley for this gem, hitting my ears right when I needed it.

Extra thought…

I'm not much of a poetry person, which is surprising I suppose given how much I love language and words.

(I also don't care much for Shakespeare, Tolkien, or any number of revered authors, linguists, and other wordsmiths; although I do have immense respect and admiration for them all.)

However, the poem above, in all its pithiness, spoke to me. Even if only because it provides elegant justification for why I feel the way I do right now.

If this year were a day, I haven't fully got up yet. The prospect of hot tea is calling me though.

Where are you at with things?
Kim

PS. For the readers who are in the other hemisphere or are otherwise not wintering, you're the meaningful counterbalance to all this, reminding us of the cyclical nature of things. I hope you're up and about, already embracing and enjoying the day/year!


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Hello! My name is Kim Witten and I’ve spent four decades overthinking absolutely everything. I’ve turned this ability into a super skill to get stuff done and now my mission is to help others do the same. Read more about my journey

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