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Hold That Thought

Parroting and pleasing

Published 2 months ago • 2 min read

Hold That Thought…

This week I've been thinking about people-pleasing. Here are three things on that theme to help turn overthinking into expert thinking:

  1. “I’m pretty sure my life began when I became willing to disappoint people” by Isabel
  2. Don't tell me what to do; please like me! A new one by me about the two faces hiding behind all our social interactions.
  3. “Moderate emotional discomfort is a signal that you’re developing as a person, and it often happens before you can detect the benefits of self-growth.”Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable by Ayelet Fishbach

Extra thoughts…

For this week's less thought-intensive link, here's 2024 in your pocket – a nifty single page printable calendar from Neatnik

I realise I'm sharing this in month four of the year. But, as Sarah Longfield points out in her monthly musings, maybe it would be better if the year started about now; if we moved our New Year's Resolutions to springtime? What do you think?

Kim


For any task, project, or job, there are three ways you can go…

  • DIY – where you gather the stuff you need and do the work yourself
  • Do it with you – where you find a collaborator and do the work together
  • Do it for you – where you hire an expert to do the work for you

I've set up my own work so that I offer all three approaches…whether you want to work alone, together, or just sit back and see it get done, I can help.

And if you're not sure what you want, or whether we might be a good fit, you should definitely pop on a call with me.

Even if we don't collaborate beyond our chat, you'll leave with a clearer idea about your next steps — that's what I can't help but doing. So, please get in touch! (Or send somebody who should my way.)


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Hope you enjoy this as much as I do creating and sharing it!


Kim Witten, PhD - Coach & Consultant

Hello! My name is Kim Witten and I’ve spent four decades overthinking absolutely everything. I’ve turned this ability into a super skill to get stuff done and now my mission is to help others do the same. Read more about my journey

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